AN 8 MONTH JOURNEY IN FACILITATION
Starting 13th October 2025
An 8-month, multi-layered training program to support any man on his journey towards becoming a men’s work facilitator. This course will include a 5-day in-person facilitation training, a 10-week online teaching container followed by an additional 3-day in-person teaching and a 3-day in-person graduation ceremony.
INCLUDES
5 Day in-person intensive Facilitator Training retreat
(Starts 13th-17th October 2025)
8 Month online group Training
Continues from October 2025 for 8 Months
3 Day in-person intensive Facilitator Training continued
(March 13th – 15th 2026)
3 days and 2 nights accommodation
Practical and theory-based training sessions
A deeper dive into the art of facilitation guiding men through the work
3 Day in-person graduation and completion retreat
(5th -7th June 2026)
3 days and 2 nights accommodation
Initiation and rite of passage ceremony for the completion of the Training
THE CURRENT REALITY
There is a men’s mental health crisis, 75% of suicides in the U.K. are by men. For too long, outdated beliefs have suggested that men shouldn’t cry, feel, or show emotion—leading countless men to feel isolated, depressed, and lost. Many bury their emotions deep down, turning their pain inward, which has contributed to issues with addiction, substance abuse, and self-destructive behaviours. Many are like walking time bombs, lost in an uninitiated world that doesn’t support them. The absence of father figures and healthy elder role models has only deepened this crisis.
As Henry Thoreau wrote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” In today’s world, this quote resonates more than ever. But by becoming a men’s work facilitator, you have the opportunity to help men turn their lives around, guiding them toward authentic connection and healing. Whether through community circles, workshops at festivals, or dedicated retreats, facilitators can create the spaces where men find hope, support, and lasting change.
"The best leaders understand the difficulties and responsibilities of leadership. They accept their humanity and, from that place, they teach with heart, courage, and acceptance of all"
Alexander Cottle
A PERSONALISED FACILITATION TRAINING
WHAT MAKES A GOOD FACILITATOR?
A skilled facilitator embodies a delicate balance between strength and softness; sometimes, silence speaks louder than words. He intuitively knows when to offer support and when to allow a man to champion his own process, developing a strong sense of empowerment.
He can speak confidently in public and knows how to project his voice, while remaining attuned to the energy of the room. A good facilitator communicates clearly and reads subtle cues, discerning what needs to be said - and when.
He develops his capacity to expose himself to challenging situations, such as leading a successful workshop for a group of men. Having a deep understanding of his own shadows and projections, he ensures these do not influence the space. By being able to leave the unhealthy parts of his ego at the door, he stands fully in service to the men he supports.
A good facilitator is strongly connected to his intuition, guiding him to sense what best serves the individual or group. He has the confidence to go “off-piste,” leading from his heart rather than what his plan and mind thinks he should say and do.
He is dedicated to practises that support his own nervous system regulation allow him to remain centered and aligned, even when faced with difficult situations, so he can uphold the integrity of the space.
Above all, a true facilitator walks the path of a humble student, continually expanding his knowledge and honing his craft. Most importantly, he knows he stands not above any man he facilitates, but alongside him.
TESTIMONIALS
DEAN SQUIRES
"The training has supported me to work with my own window of tolerance and my own nervous system and being able to hold myself in this work while being a witness to other men in their journey.
Men that are feeling the call to facilitate and spread the work as I did - my fear of not being good enough stopped me. Being here had been so instrumental in overcoming those fears.
I cant think of any other place that I could better hone these skills, so I am so thankful I did take that step forward and make that investment and commitment and honour that call that I had.
Watching the fine nuances of how this work is delivered and held from men who have spend years honing their skills, they are passing my that down and that is something we cant pick up from a textbook."
ALASTAIR
"The Unmasked Man convey unconditional love with such a solid grounding.
It has shown me what it is to be a true king - compassionate, humble, yet rock solid.
I can walk into any situation with any person and I can be present with my heart open.
The sense of brotherhood is so deep.
A lot of the barriers that I carried before coming into this were I’m not good enough, not experienced enough, not smart enough.
The realisation of the parts of me that I always thought were my biggest weaknesses are the thing that my biggest strengths.
Bringing this work forward to other men has been such a passion - after this there is no stopping me! "
OLLI
"Worth every penny.
I arrived feeling like I’ve already released a lot of things.
But the training was so profound for me, I tapped into something so deep.
I’ve been suffering with chronic back pain for a long time and since the release at the training and being held has taken my pain away completely.
It has been by far the most transformational thing I’ve done, even more than plant medicine.
I feel this is going to allow me to embody that release now.
The training has helped me with reading people, reading body language, listening and learning to work with what they are giving to me as opposed to going in with an agenda or a topic. I feel like I can really now position myself to better understand the man that comes to my spaces."
WHY BECOME A FACILITATOR?
Our society is calling for male role models who embody healthy masculine virtues. The Unmasked Man has created this facilitator training program to equip men not only with these teachings but also with the skills to guide others on journeys of healing, growth, and transformation.
For some, participating in retreats may feel like enough, with no immediate urge to step into a leadership role within men’s work. Yet for others, there is a powerful calling to lead and facilitate the same transformational work that has profoundly shaped their own lives.
The Unmasked Man envisions men’s work rising globally, much like the waves of meditation, cold water therapy, and yoga. Men’s work stands on the edge, ready to to erupt on to the world stage. If there was ever a time when this work was needed, it is now. There are men - and perhaps you are one of them - who feel inspired to lead on this journey.
THE UNMASKED MAN FACILITATOR TRAINING
This training is designed to empower men to step into leadership. Facilitating men’s work requires creating a safe, supportive environment where men feel secure enough to explore their inner worlds deeply and authentically.
On this journey you'll have the opportunity to expand your awareness, sharpen your existing skills, and receive fresh wisdom.
The Unmasked Man understands that we build up protective barriers around our wounds; we often refer to this defense mechanism as the "Safety Officer". We believe that as facilitators embodying the energy of the Lover, we can drop into an open, heart-centred place to best support a man trying to connect with his grief, sadness, anger or repressed trauma.
Listening and spaceholding is an art that goes beyond just hearing words. It involves attuning to the different levels of communication, from what’s spoken to the energy and unspoken messages beneath the surface. At The Unmasked Man, we dive deeply into these intricate layers, cultivating a mastery of the levels of listening and spaceholding for deep transformation.
This training blends theoretical and practical insights, showing you how to embody essential principles of men’s work and deliver them effectively.
Upon completion, you will receive a Mens' Work Facilitator Training certificate.
ABOUT THE TRAINING
5-DAY FACILITATOR TRAINING IMMERSION
This five-day intimate immersion will dive into essential topics such as sharing circle dynamics, emotional process work, and the art of reading the room to pick up on subtle cues.
Creating a profoundly transformative, well-structured and professional container involves many layers. We will explore how to effectively awaken a man’s senses through the subtle management of lighting, smell, music, texture and taste. For example, a certain song used at the right moment can connect a man to his heart, and allow him to experience deep healing.
8 MONTH ONLINE GROUP TRAINING
These 2.5hr online sessions (16 calls total) extend the learning from the five-day immersion, offering a deeper educational container. We will have the opportunity to deepen the work together through in depth teaching sessions, practising techniques, and provide reflective feedback to support each participant’s growth.
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800+ Page Manual alongside weekly homework manuals
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Weekly homework and study requirements*
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Call to action and weekly task setting and questions
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Question & answer time
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Goal-oriented integration support
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Weekly WhatsApp support group
*Please note: a minimum pass rate is required to receive the certification of completion for this facilitator training. We will take a short break over the festive period, and an 85% online attendance is mandatory.
3-DAY RESIDENTIAL IMMERSION CONTINUED
This three-day immersion builds on our initial five-day program, offering participants further hands-on experience in facilitating men’s emotional journeys. We’ll dive even deeper into the practical skills of facilitation, exploring how to intuitively guide a man through his emotions with confidence and care.
3-DAY RESIDENTIAL GRADUATION & COMPLETION RETREAT
This gathering is an invitation for our newly initiated men’s work facilitators to come together to feast and celebrate and support each other as we embark on the next steps of our individual and collective journeys.
We are here to lift each other up and bless each man for the amazing work that has been completed on the path.
We will stay together in in the wild where initiations and rites of passage will take place, we will create a grounded and meaningful closure to our container. Through fire, music, song, and delicious co-created feasts, we will kindle brotherhood and connection.
Strangers we began and life long friends we have become…
Let's celebrate this gift and rejoice in your certification as Men's Work Facilitator.
ADDITIONAL EXTRAS
Printed training manuals, including
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800 + Page Manual
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Reading List
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Access to digital resources including:
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Educational Resources
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Questionnaires
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Men's work facilitator training certificate
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The Unmasked Man Merchandise Pack (e.g. t-shirt, hoody etc)
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Connection with a growing global network of men
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN
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History of Men's Work:
Gain insights into the historical context of men's work, examining its evolution and the societal factors that have shaped it. This understanding helps facilitators connect with the roots of their work and its relevance in contemporary society.
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Predicament of Man:
Explore the historical and cultural challenges faced by men, including concepts of war and the impact the warrior archetype has had and how to regain the balance within and in society.
Boy Psychology vs. Man Psychology:
Explore the developmental psychology of boys and men, understanding the characteristics and challenges that distinguish boy psychology (e.g., dependency, insecurity) from man psychology (e.g., responsibility, groundedness). This distinction helps facilitators guide participants toward more mature, resilient expressions of masculinity.
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Archetypal Process Dynamics & Their Shadows:
Gain insight into archetypal energies, such as the Lover, Warrior, Magician, and King, and learn about the shadows each archetype can possess (e.g., the Warrior’s shadow as aggression or the Lover’s shadow as dependence). Understanding these dynamics allows facilitators to work with men to embrace empowering qualities while recognizing and integrating shadow aspects.
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Somatic Work and Learning the Signs of the Body:Somatic work focuses on the body to access and release emotions or stored trauma. Learn somatic techniques and attunement to the language of the body - such as muscle tension, changes in breath, and posture shifts, to support participants in accessing and releasing emotion.
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Emotional Storage in the Body:
Learn where emotions are held in the body, understanding the connections between specific organs and emotional experiences. This knowledge allows facilitators to guide participants in releasing, pinpointing and processing emotions safely and effectively.
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Body Awareness:
Cultivate a deep awareness of the body and its parasympathetic and sympathetic responses. This knowledge not only aids facilitators in maintaining their own emotional regulation but also helps them support participants in recognizing and managing their bodily responses during emotional work.
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Understanding the Chakra System:
Dive into the chakra system, exploring how each chakra relates to archetypal formats.
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Window of Tolerance:Understand the window of tolerance - the optimal zone of arousal for processing emotions. Learn to recognize when individuals are within their window or experiencing hyper- or hypo-arousal, allowing you to adjust your support accordingly.
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Understanding Trauma - Big T & Little T:
Dive into the topic of trauma, distinguishing between Big T trauma (severe events like abuse or accidents) and Little T trauma (everyday stressors or smaller emotional wounds). This knowledge equips facilitators to approach participants with sensitivity and awareness, recognizing the unique ways trauma can affect each individual.
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Generational Trauma:Delve into the concept of generational trauma and its impact on men's mental and emotional health. Understanding how trauma can be passed down through generations allows facilitators to grow themselves and address these issues sensitively and effectively.
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Safeguarding & Signposting: Learn essential safeguarding practices to create a safe environment, including understanding boundaries, recognizing signs of distress, and knowing when to guide individuals to additional professional support through signposting to external resources, such as mental health professionals
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Practical Interactive Workshops and Techniques:
Engage in practical, hands-on workshops designed to teach specific techniques for men’s work facilitation, from leading sharing circles to emotional processes. These interactive sessions provide direct experience and real-time feedback, helping facilitators refine their skills and develop effective methods to support group dynamics and individual growth.
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Leadership Styles:Explore different leadership styles—leading from ego, mind, heart, or soul. This insight helps facilitators recognize their own leadership tendencies and adapt their approach to create the most integral environment.
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Compassionate Exhaustion:
Understand the concept of compassionate exhaustion, when facilitators give too much of themselves. Learn strategies to recognize the signs, manage energy levels, and practice self-care to ensure sustained effectiveness in supporting others.
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Projection and Triggers:
Explore how personal projections and triggers can influence group dynamics. By knowing these concepts and yourself intimately, facilitators can create a safer space for vulnerability and healing, minimizing the impact of their own personal experiences on the group.
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Accountability:
By cultivating a culture of radical self responsibility, facilitators are empowered to take ownership of their healing journeys and show up as the best man they can be.
WHO IS THIS TRAINING FOR?
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Current facilitators
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Future facilitators
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Fathers, sons
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Managers, coaches and leaders among men
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Men that want to change the world and share this important work from their heart
REQUIRED PRE-REQUISITES: THE UNMASKED MAN LEVEL 1 OR LEVEL 2,
OR A MINIMUM OF 1 YEAR'S EXPERIENCE IN THE MEN'S WORK FIELD
COMMITMENT
The journey begins 13th October 2025
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5 Day in person intensive Facilitator Training (Starts 13th-17th October 2025)
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8 Month online group Training - 2.5hr group training calls (15 total)
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3 Day intensive (13th-15th March 2026)
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3 Day graduation & certification ceremony (5th -7th June 2026)
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All food and accommodation is included
*This training is limited to 16 men only
LIVE CALL & IN PERSON TRAINING SCHEDULE
2025
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IN PERSON TRAINING 13TH - 17TH OCTOBER
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29TH OCTOBER
(7 - 9:30pm)
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5TH NOVEMBER
(7 - 9:30pm)
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12TH NOVEMBER
(7 - 9:30pm)
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19TH NOVEMBER
(7 - 9:30pm)
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26TH NOVEMBER
(7 - 9:30pm)
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3RD DECEMBER
(7 - 9:30pm)
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10TH DECEMBER
(7 - 9:30pm)
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FESTIVE BREAK
2026
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21ST JANUARY
(7 - 9:30pm)
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4TH FEBRUARY
(7 - 9:30pm)
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IN PERSON TRAINING
13TH - 15TH MARCH
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18TH FEBRUARY
(7 - 9:30pm)
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25TH MARCH
(7 - 9:30pm)
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8TH APRIL
(7 - 9:30pm)
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22ND APRIL
(7 - 9:30pm)
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13TH MAY
(7 - 9:30pm)
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27TH MAY
(7 - 9:30pm)
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CLOSING & GRADUATION CEREMONY 5TH - 7TH JUNE
LEAD FACILITATOR
FOUNDER, COACH &
LEAD FACILITATOR
ALEXANDER COTTLE
Alexander Cottle is the Founder of The Unmasked Man and an experienced, embodied facilitator and coach dedicated to transformative men's work. With a rich background in Eastern philosophy, counselling, yoga, and meditation, Alexander brings a unique and holistic approach to his practice. He is deeply passionate about teaching the embodied side of somatic shadow work, guiding men to explore and integrate their hidden aspects with compassion and courage.
Through his heartfelt and insightful methods, Alexander has helped hundreds of men release shame, embrace their true selves, and cultivate a profound sense of inner peace. His commitment to creating a supportive and empowering environment allows men to embark on a journey of self-discovery and deep healing. Alexander's work stands out for its depth, authenticity, and lasting impact on the lives of those he guides.
STARTS OCTOBER 2025
CHOOSE YOUR PAYMENT OPTION
INVESTMENT
£5,800
13th OCT 2025 - 7th June 2026
Single Payment. Pay in Full
*Limited to 16 men
Earlybird price £5400
(Before 31st March 2025)
£520
13th OCT 2025 - 7th June 2026
12 Monthly Payments of £480
*Limited to 16 men
Earlybird price 12 x £480
(Before 31st March 2025)
*Price includes the 5 day immersion, 8 month online training, 3 day midway facilitation immersion, and 3 day graduation ceremony (Food and Accommodation included for all in person events)
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